“It’s not funny that I compulsorily have to go to bed by 9 pm after I have done my assignments, had dinner and I still want to play my favourite game or watch my special TV show. Am I not grown-up enough to make my own decisions?”
I totally understand this feeling and many times, living with grown-ups can be somehow. They get to do all the things that you don’t get to do, how’s that even fair? The truth though is that they earned it. A lot of them have grown through your stage successfully and they qualify to make decisions on their own without any interference. For most adults you see, being at home is not their first shot at independence.
A good number of them have lived alone, made all their decisions and can continue to do so. If you are referring to your parents, you should know that they had been independent long before you were born. Their being able to cater to you, give you a quality education, a roof over your head and the comfort that you have, means that they are way beyond your level. You probably can’t take care of yourself for an entire year if you were left alone.
But I agree with you that there should be an allowance for you to make some choices and be an adult sometimes. Although, you will have to earn it and not mess things up. Another big difference between you and a grown-up is the experiences that they have gone through. You are at a stage where you want to explore and see what will happen when you try something out, but the grown-ups have gone through it and they don’t want you to go through the same things that they did. It may seem like it’s not for the best, but it is. So most of the times, you have to trust their judgments and wait for your chance to be independent and make your mark, in your own way.
I remember as a teenager when I wanted to have my way, my mum will say “You can’t do that in my house when you have your own house, you can do whatever you want.” Lol. I was always pained because it wasn’t nice in any way, but the older I grew, the better I understood her side of things.
So the best thing you can do for now is to see things through their eyes, even though other families may be doing it differently too. Learn how to obey instructions and to be on the right side of things no matter what. So when they say you shouldn’t be watching this, or you are meant to focus more on that, then you’ll understand, that it’s for the best.
Go to bed whenever the right time is, I am certain that there will be other times allocated for you to do the things you want, even if it’s on Saturdays. And when you have your chance to be a little independent like in college, you can sleep at 3 am if you want, but be sure it’s for the right purpose. No one stays a teen forever, hold on to that.
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