“I don’t like it when I look at my scorecard and I see a couple of subjects I didn’t do well in. On the other hand, most of my friends did very well on those same subjects. I am not sure if my parents will like my grades, is there something wrong with me?”
For most of us, failure is not just when we get the lowest scores, it is when we do not meet up to our own expectations of ourselves. That in itself can be really disappointing on its own. In schools, Prize Giving Day is seen as one of the most eventful days because it’s on that day that the very best students are given awards for scoring the highest in various subjects. Most of us desire to be called out and recognized as one of the best in our class because one can be popular in school too for doing so well. Even our parents become proud of us.
One thing we later find out is that only one person can win the first prize. So there is always a huge tussle for who will gain the crown. I remember how it can feel to put in ones best to ensure that at the end of the session, one comes out top. Along the way, not doing too well in a test, or missing a crucial question can mess our scores up. This doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you, no! It just shows you that there are some things you are yet to learn to use to move you ahead of the pack.
Speaking about academic results, it is important that at this early stage of your life, you start to look into what works for you the most when it comes to studying. It is common that the system places a general expectation on how you should study, how long and what times of the day it should be. I never knew it was possible that everyone had a unique style of reading and getting results till I got into the University. You have to find out what way works for you the best. While some like reading in the daytime, some others prefer when there is peace and quiet. Some teenagers need just thirty minutes to brush through their notes daily to be updated, while some may need two hours daily.
One key thing you must know, and this is crucial to your passing your exams, is that you will only be tested on what you’ve been taught. No one is going to teach you Biology and bring out Math’s questions on the exam day. Tests and exams are only there to ascertain that what you learnt is still fresh in your mind. It is also important because going forward, you will find out that what you learnt in the previous class is what you’ll be using in the next one.
So if you failed, all you need to do is to re-strategize. A popular quote says “Even if you don’t get what you want, you have learnt how to avoid what you don’t want.” So see failure as an experiment that shows you what you shouldn’t do. Look out for what you should do and try it again, I am certain you’ll do much better.
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